Catching your partner after the fact (that is, after he has already cheated on you) is not so difficult. You just need to do an internet search for detective methods and, in minutes, you will have enough information to rival a seasoned private eye. In retrospect, you’ll realize that there were signs hinting to his impending transgression.
But, maybe, you want to become aware of his cheating intentions before the deed even happens, to save yourself the pain of being fooled by the one you have feelings for. In this case, you may want to take a look at the eight signs that he is likely to cheat on you in the near future.
1. He seems bored all the time
The normal progression in a healthy relationship is moving from the honeymoon phase to a deeper, calmer, but still emotionally-rich relationship. Some people, though, only like to be in the relationship while everything is new and exciting and there are things to discover about the other. For these people, when the relationship starts transitioning to the long-term phase, it means they need to get out.
2. There is a “new friend” in town
Both you and your partner have your own group of friends, maybe some of them common and some of them not. It is also normal to want to spend some time with some of the friends, not together. A girls’ night out or a boys’ sports Saturday is perfectly normal and healthy. The problem appears when your partner can’t seem to stop talking about a new friend, especially if it is of the opposite sex. It can be a red flag that, subconsciously, he has already started to replace you with the new friend, and you can guess where that leads.
3. He feels more distant
Sometimes, both partners in the relationship can have a difficult time opening up to the other, especially when they are in some difficult or stressful situations they don’t know how to get out of. If you don’t manage to build a bridge, and find out what is truly going on and why he is so distant, this will, almost inevitably, lead to him looking for consolation and understanding somewhere else.
4. Constant state of anger
Your partner’s anger can appear for objective reasons (if, for example, you crashed the brand-new car because you did not pay attention to the traffic lights in a busy intersection), or it can be a cry for help and attention, if you have unwillingly started to neglect your partner and his needs. Yes, you might have been extremely busy at work, or with the children, but don’t forget that your partner is family too. If you keep ignoring him, he could start looking for confirmation from another.
5. He has become apathetic
If your partner is normally doing the “I don’t care” game when it is time to make some decisions, you don’t have anything to worry about. But, if your partner suddenly goes from “I have an opinion on everything and I need to make it known” to “I really don’t care, you choose”, this is a sign of deep-seated problems in the relationship. It means your partner feels there is no way for him to solve those problems, or he’s too tired of trying and not being heard. Unless you manage to unearth the problems and solve them somehow, the likelihood of him looking for someone else is very high.
6. Apparent guilt
When your partner starts thinking about the possibility of cheating on you, he also knows that it would mean a betrayal of the highest degree. He is torn between staying in a problematic relationship or going for something new, just to ease his pain or suffering. This mental battle will show in his behavior, making him either look like puppy who has just chewed on your favorite pair of slippers, or prompting him to show up with unexpected gifts, trying hard to revive the honeymoon phase of the relationship.
7. He starts hiding things
It used to be that you shared everything and kept no secrets from each other. But lately, you’ve started noticing that your partner is not really as forthcoming as he used to be. It is usually the small, almost insignificant details that draw our attention: a short hesitation before an answer, things that are not where they used to be, a new password on his phone which he is not willing to share, less money coming in without apparent reason. This kind of behavior is usually the precursor of cheating.
8. Your gut tells you something is off
Instinct (or the gut feeling) appears due to the brain compiling and analyzing data that you are not directly aware of. So, if your gut tells you that something is off, that something is not quite right, not as it should be, pay attention. Open your eyes and try to figure out, as objectively as you can, why you have this nagging feeling. Beware not to lead yourself on just because, deep down, you don’t really want to find out the truth.
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