Cheating is one of the worst fears we have in relationships and when we find out it’s happening to us, many thoughts run through our minds as to how we should react. The most important thing is to get your bearings before doing anything regarding possible cheating.
Don’t Be Paranoid
It’s easy to let your mind wander and lead you to a place that makes you feel insecure. You don’t want to get to that place for no reason, though. Make sure that your thoughts of your partner cheating actually exist logically. Take the time to examine the situation and determine if he’s behaving strangely or if you’re just paranoid.
Act on the Situation
If you reach the conclusion that something is definitely going on, make the decision to act as quickly as possible. The longer you ignore the possibility of cheating, the farther the situation can advance.
Watch for these 5 clues that he’s lying and possibly cheating:
#1. Avoiding Eye Contact
Being too uncomfortable to look you in the eye is a sure sign that your guy is hiding something from you. When people are connected and feel open with each other, eye contact is a natural part of interaction. If he suddenly stops looking at your eyes as much as usual, take note.
#2. Changes in Story
When someone is lying, their stories often become jumbled because they can’t keep up with the details they’re creating in their mind. Hearing conflicting statements or noticing that he forgets something he told you the day before is an indication that he’s trying to keep a false story straight in his mind.
#3. Nervous Mannerisms
You know your partner’s quirks and normal body movements. The addition of nervous tics that you’re not used to seeing shows that something is eating them up inside. An important aspect of this is when these tics emerge. Try to ask your guy something you know he’ll lie about and observe whether the new tics come out.
#4. Difficulty Explaining
Answering ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ questions is easy, but if your guy starts to sweat or trip up when you ask him questions that require explanation, you know he’s keeping something from you. When a person is lying and hiding something, being surprised with open-ended questions will send them into a visible panic.
#5. That Gut Feeling
It doesn’t matter how many times you hear it, for some reason ignoring your gut is a mistake that gets repeated. When it comes to possible cheating, you do not want to make the usual misstep. If you’re gut is telling you that something is up with your guy, listen to it!
What to Do Next
If you suspect your guy of cheating on you, then you will start to feel the shattering of any trust that existed between you. The problem is that relationships thrive only when trust exists. If you’re not able to salvage the bond before the trust disappears, your future will not be bright.
Try to actively figure out what’s going on. Look in his phone, if you can, and just pay attention to his actions and energy.
Remember, this is your partner so make sure you know when he is and isn’t telling the truth. Don’t jump to any conclusions before you find concrete evidence of wrongdoing.
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