Realizing that your partner is starting to pull away from you and treat you differently is one of the scariest things that can happen in a relationship. Sometimes it feels like it comes out of the blue, which can make it difficult to know how to deal with it. Realistically, there were probably signs that your guy was starting to feel disconnected, but maybe you missed them when they passed.
Consider these 3 reasons that guys tend to pull away:
#1. Interest was never there
Sometimes love is not returned, and the fact of the matter is that you might simply be projecting your feelings onto a guy that doesn’t share them. There’s nothing to feel bad about, but you’ll need to accept that he’s withdrawing because he wasn’t interested in taking things to the next level in the first place.
He might be a good friend, and simply want your relationship to stay that way.
#2. Has nothing to do with you
Guys have a tendency to withdraw when they’re stressed or trying to adapt to new situations. If you notice that your love has suddenly started pulling away from interaction with you, ask yourself what is going on in his life. Maybe he has a lot of responsibility at work or is trying to learn a new skill.
His withdrawn state could actually have nothing to do with you and be a result of something else. Don’t panic without reason!
#3. You’re pushing him away
Men and women don’t have brains that function in the same ways. Things that we women might perceive as normal or loving may come across as pressuring or controlling to men. It’s vital to be aware of what expectations you’re putting on your guy and what affect that is having on him. Many times men pull away because they feel like they can’t meet the standards that we are setting for them.
The worst thing to do when you see that your guy is growing distant from you it to try and tighten your grip. Don’t freak out and put your claws into him. Step back and take a deep breath.
Here are 3 practical things to do when he withdraws:
#1. Let there be space
Seriously, when a guy starts pulling away, trying to force yourself closer will only make things worse. Let him take the space he needs. Guys need time to process everything they go through. Respect that he may just need a little extra breathing room. When you give it to him, he will realize that you’re supporting him as he needs in the moment and appreciate that.
#2. Look after yourself
Take care of yourself once you start to feel that your guy is pulling away from you. Letting the negative thought patterns overwhelm you won’t help the situation or you. Instead, do more things to boost your happiness. When you focus on self-care, you will feel better and your guy will feel less pressured.
#3. Let him work it out
You do not need to fix everything for your man! Sometimes it’s better to leave him to his own devices and let him figure out what’s going on by himself. Allowing him to work out his own issues will create a dynamic of independence between you, but also of mutual respect. He can handle things on his own too, he doesn’t need you to be Superwoman.
Simply put, the best choice to make is remaining calm and level-headed. Your guy could be withdrawing for a number of reasons. Figure out what’s going on and allow it unfold as it must.
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