Saying ‘I love you’ can be one of the most significant moments in any relationship, but only when it’s reserved for use in the right times. If you say it all the time or just to anyone, it loses its value. These words are sacred when it comes to romantic relationships. To maintain the strength behind the words’ sentiment, you need to make sure you use them sparingly.
The following 7 instances are times when you shouldn’t say ‘I love you’:
#1. You’ve been drinking
We all know how the emotions can start flowing when alcohol is involved. You start to feel freer and looser with your thoughts, emotions, and words. This is the time that you actually want to be the most careful. Saying ‘I love you’ when you’re drunk is dangerous because it may be an exaggeration of what you really feel and you also may cheapen the experience for yourself and your partner.
#2. Rebound territory
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After leaving a long-term relationship, your sense of being is all jumbled. One of the quickest reactions is to grab on to another person for the familiar comfort and support that you’re now lacking. Saying ‘I love you’ when you’re in rebound mode can be devastating for everyone involved, however. Chances are that you’re not in a clear enough state of mind to really determine if you’re actually in love, and telling another person you are is unfair to them.
#3. He’s bouncing back
If you know that he’s just gotten out of a relationship, it’s better not to bombard him with ‘I love you’ right away. He may want to take things slowly so that he can be sure of his feelings and explore the new dynamic between you. If you tell him you love him, you might pressure him into reciprocating before he truly feels ready.
#4. After tragedy
Using the phrase ‘I love you’ for the first time is a big moment. Whatever time you choose to express it will stick in your mind and your partner’s mind forever. Tragedy is something that can make people feel closer to each other. You may feel pulled to comfort your guy by letting him know that you’re there for him in the deepest way, with your love. However, declaring it in this moment might send him the wrong message. Instead of feeling your true love, he might believe you are telling him out of sympathy.
#5. The very beginning
Don’t jump too deep too soon! If you’re in the beginning of a relationship, try to let it grow naturally. No matter how much you like your guy, there is no reason to rush into saying ‘I love you.’ There will be plenty of time for that, if you are the right match.
#6. With expectations
Be careful that you don’t say ‘I love you’ because you think it’s a strategy to further the level of commitment in your relationship. Love is a serious emotion and part of life. Try to be responsible and use the heavy phrase only when it’s something you genuinely feel.
#7. You feel obligated
Feeling pressured to say ‘I love you’ to someone is the worst reason to do it. When it comes from a place of obligation, it is forced and unlikely to be pure. Wait until it comes to you naturally.
Cherish the first moment of saying ‘I love you.’ It’s a memory you’ll keep with you for the rest of time.
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