First loves have a lot of expectations and a big reputation to live up to. Hopefully, yours met all standards, but if not, there’s nothing to worry about. Second relationships are often the ones that help you to explore who you really are and what you really want.
There are 15 reasons second loves are the greatest:
#1 You Know Love Can Happen More Than Once
The simple fact that you’ve reached the point to find yourself in a second relationship means that you’ve learned that love can strike more than once. First loves often leave us thinking that there’s no one else out there. Your second relationship buries that myth.
#2 Softer Heartbreak
If your second love doesn’t end up to be the one, the heartbreak will be less painful than your first. Of course, you will grieve for any loss in any relationship, but after experiencing your first heartbreak, you’re able to brace yourself for the landing.
#3 Braver to Take the Leap
The end of your first love slaps you in the face with the reality that love might not last forever. While it’s a cold, hard truth, it’s important in helping forward movement. You’ll find that you move faster to make the leap to your second relationship once you’ve let go of the forever standard.
#4 Still Not Jaded
One heartbreak is tough, but it’s not enough to leave you jaded in love. When you enter your relationship, you feel go in with a fresh perspective and the belief that growth is still possible.
#5 New Excitement
Your second love gives you the opportunity to use your practiced skills while exploring new things! Every person is unique and no relationship will ever be the same. Embrace new experiences.
#6 You Can Be Yourself
Spending time in your first relationship most likely gave you the opportunity to take root in who you are and be comfortable in your own skin. Imagine how great it will feel to enter your second relationship being your true self from the very beginning.
#7 Moving Forward For You
It’s common to jump into your first relationship without really considering the pros and cons. Love is something everyone wants, and sometimes it happens without thinking. Having the experience of ending a relationship will give you greater insight to what you’re truly searching for in a partner and will help you move forward because you want to and not from impulse.
#8 Walls Break Down
You may have put up some extra walls of protection after your first love ended. This is natural and there’s nothing to feel bad about. One of the most loving things you will experience in your second relationship is your new partner taking their time and care to break down those walls to see you for you.
#9 You Notice the Tricks
When you find yourself in a second relationship, you will notice that from the very beginning, you are more aware of when things just don’t seem right. Your tolerance for tricks and unacceptable behavior will be close to nothing, which will result in greater happiness.
#10 Better Option
You learned from dating your first partner. There were aspects of their personality and behavioral patterns that you realized did not work for you. In your second relationship, you are likely to be more careful and purposeful with your choice of mate.
#11 New Mistakes
Mistakes are a part of life that help us grow in many ways and shouldn’t be avoided. What you want to focus on, however, is making new mistakes. Once you move on to your second love, you will not make the same mistakes you learned from in your first relationship.
#12 More Balanced
Love can make you crazy, and first love can send your mind on a long trip from which it will only return when you reach your second love. You’ll feel yourself more grounded and calm in your second relationship because you’ve experienced the effects that crazy love can have.
With time comes maturity, and that is true from moving from your first to second relationships. Even if you feel torn apart by what happened with your first love, you have grown and matured in specific ways that will become apparent in your second relationship.
#14 Know How Love Can Hurt
You had heard that love can hurt before your first heartbreak, but now you really know. That knowledge stays inside you and gives you a realistic perspective about people and the way bonding and connection works. You will remember in your second relationship that sometimes love can hurt.
#15 Not So Naive
You’re not a deer in headlights anymore. There is no need to fear blind love. After your first love ended, you were faced with the harsh reality that any love, even the most pure, can only survive with work and commitment. Your second relationship will give you the chance to practice that.
First loves teach you a lot and will never be forgotten, but it often the second relationship where the most connection is built.
We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!
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