Being in a relationship is a choice not a necessity. Both people should feel that they are being taken care of and fulfilled from the dynamics within the union. When you have a boyfriend who’s constantly telling you that he doesn’t have enough time for you, it can be very disheartening. Don’t beat yourself up, it’s not personal.
Try these 6 things if your boyfriend has no time for you:
#1. Ask yourself what you want
When you notice that your boyfriend never seems to have the time that you need, it’s time to ask yourself a few questions. Relationships are a balancing act which is never easy with work, family, friends, and other responsibilities. This is not an excuse for your guy to slack on his side of your bond, however.
Think about yourself! Figure out what it is that would help you be fulfilled in a romantic relationship, and consider whether you’re getting in with your current partner.
#2. Determine whether you can accept him
Accept the fact that your boyfriend is who he is, and you cannot change him just by wanting him to be other things. This is something that can be really hard to wrap your head around, especially when you’re been in a loving relationship with someone for some time.
Analyze how he prioritizes the things in his life and ask yourself if you can live with that. There’s no reason to keep going if you know you won’t be happy.
#3. Have an honest conversation
Sit your boyfriend down and ask him to have serious conversation with you. Express to him how it makes you feel that he doesn’t have enough time for you. Let him respond and take in the emotions you’ve both shared.
Reflect on what you both said, and ask him if he can commit to a specific amount of time each week or month to be spent together as a couple.
#4. Keep things in realistic perspective
Life cannot be perfect all the time. We all go through obstacles and they affect the ways in which we behave. Your boyfriend is not an exception to this reality. If he is going through difficult times, he may be struggling to maintain a good balance in his life including the time he spends with you.
Think about whether you need to give him a break and support him while he passes through a difficult period.
#5. Foster your own life
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket, and in this case, your relationship. Make sure that you’re living in ways that help your well-being outside of your union. Do things you enjoy, connect with friends, and stay curious.
#6. Don’t be consumed
You are not your boyfriend’s girlfriend, you are YOU. Don’t forget that your relationship is just one part of who you are. Your worth does not rest on your boyfriend or the way the bond functions.
Time is precious. Decide whether you can wait for your boyfriend to find some for you, or if you want to spend yours elsewhere.
We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!
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