All you need is love, right? Not quite because relationships, like it or not, take a lot more work to hold them together in a healthy and enjoyable way. There’s nothing wrong with being a romantic, as long as you’re able to bring yourself back down to the ground when it comes time to make your relationship last.
Keep these 11 factors in mind because they matter more than the love you share:
This factor is something that is highlighted in all relationship advice for a reason. Without trust, relationships simply will not thrive. If you don’t trust your partner, or vice versa, your days will be filled with anxiety and doubt.
There is never a good reason to sacrifice being respected, even love. Let’s face it: if a person truly loves you, they will not disrespect you. So if you notice that respect is lacking in your relationship, it’s time to reevaluate the bond.
#3 Feeling Safe
Do you feel safe with your partner? If you feel anything other than safe, you are not in a healthy union. Abuse is not limited to the physical types that are often highlighted in media. It can be emotional and mentally manipulative. If you’re not feeling safe, reach out for help.
#4 Happy Mindset
Happiness is a state of mind that we choose each and every day of our lives. The things around us can influence the choices we make. That is why it’s important to foster a sense of happiness in your relationship. When you and your partner find happiness in your daily lives, you are more likely to sustain your love.
#5 Actually Liking Each Other
Loving someone is different than liking them. You reach a certain point in your relationship and you stop thinking about whether you like the person your partner is because you love them. This is not healthy for you or your partner. If you don’t like each other, it’s better to let go and find people you do like to share your lives with.
#6 Your True Self
Remember who you were before you became a part of the system that is your relationship. It is important not to lose yourself in the context of your relationship. Spend time doing the activities that you always did as you, not as you the girlfriend.
Being in a relationship should not feel like being in chains. You need to maintain your sense of freedom and ability to make choices solely based on what you want and need. The same goes for your partner. Be careful of allowing an unhealthy codependency to grow between you.
#8 Choosing to Be Partners
Facing day to day life can be stressful and tiring. If you’re going to spend your life with someone, choose someone that will be a real partner. Chores and responsibilities should be shared naturally and willingly between you. If this isn’t happening, there’s an issue in your partnership.
#9 Healthy Sex Life
Sex is not the most important part of a relationship by any means, but if your relationship has included sex, then it’s important to maintain it. Be open to trying and learning new things together to keep it fresh.
#10 Talking it Out
Become experts of communication with each other. This is possibly the most important part of any relationship. You need to be able to communicate about everything with the person you choose to spend your life with. If you hit obstacles, take the time to work them out so that resentment doesn’t arise.
#11 Wanting to Be Together
Ambivalence can be a normal part of the flow of relationships, but when it dominates the connection, something's not right. Both of you should feel that you want to be with the other equally. Otherwise one person will end up giving more energy.
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