Although you may think that your husband is the one person that you should be able to say anything to, there are still limits to what you should say to him. It’s not that you need to monitor yourself at all times, just keep a few things in mind to talk to with friends instead of your man.
Here are 10 things that are better not to say to your husband:
Whether you’re talking about how you feel or how situations are, this word or phrase is a clear indication that you are not open to connection. When your husband asks you how you feel and you answer ‘I’m fine,’ he learns that something is bothering you, but you don’t want to tell him.
If there is something that needs to be discussed, put it out in the open instead of beating around the bush and avoiding it with this phrase.
Nothing stings worse than when you shut your husband out by letting him that you simply don’t care. Times can get tough and it might be necessary to engage in uncomfortable conversations. The worst thing you can do is lead into the silent treatment by responding to what he says with ‘whatever.’
Give your husband the chance to express himself, and answer with your honest feelings in response.
#3 Never Mind, I’ll Do It
Taking away the opportunity from your husband to do what needs to be done makes him feel inadequate and unneeded. When you swoop in and take the responsibility out from under him, it makes him feel like you are trying to control him and every situation.
If you’ve asked him to help you get something done, give him enough time to take care of it, and he will.
#4 Just Calm Down
The best way to make your husband explode with anger is to tell him to calm down. Not only does it make you sound like you think you’re superior to him, but it also seems like you don’t respect his feelings for what they are.
#5 Not Like That
There is no one right way to do anything. When you see your husband doing something differently than you would have done it, leave him be. You don’t need to micromanage him. He’s your partner, after all, not your child!
Instead, ask him how he learned to do things that way. You might even learn something new.
#6 Just Like Your…
One of the worst things a man can hear from his wife is a comparison to someone in his family, especially when he knows that she’s not particularly fond of that person. Do your best to control your emotional urges to tell your husband that he’s just like his father or mother.
When you’re angry or fighting, take a step back and choose a different approach.
#7 My Mom Said…
Your husband loves you and your family, that’s a given, but what he didn’t sign up for is to hear your mother’s opinion on matters that have to do with your family’s decisions. It’s okay for you to listen to your mother’s opinion and to consider it yourself, but it’s not okay to bring it into the main conversation between you and your husband.
You are the authorities of your relationship and family, so it’s best to keep it that way.
#8 I Won’t Get Married Again
There shouldn’t be need for explanation of why this is something you don’t want to say to your husband. Even if you let it slip out in the heat of an argument, this statement will stay in your husband’s mind and heart.
Don’t use your marriage as a weapon against him during disagreements.
#9 If You Would Do This Then I Would…
Your relationship with your husband is not a one way street. You cannot expect him to do anything and everything you want without things going both ways. His behaviors should not be what provoke your own way of being in the relationship.
Stop blaming his actions or lack of actions for things you haven’t’ done.
#10 Not ‘in love’
Marriage has natural ups and downs and there will be times that you notice that the passion simply isn’t what it used to be. Prepare yourself for that and don’t let it become what you gauge your relationship on. Telling your husband that you’re not ‘in love’ anymore can cause lasting damage even if it was just a temporary feeling.
Your husband has just as many vulnerable feelings as you. Protect his heart as you would want him to protect yours.
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