There are many forms of relationship that you can find yourself in. Not all of them are as real, however, and that’s what you need to be conscious of. Romantic love can feel like a tough nut to crack, but it just takes some insight. Prepare yourself to get the most out of experiencing a real relationship when it’s your time.
Keep these 11 things about real relationships in mind:
#1. Dark allows growth
We tend to pull away when times get tough and the light seems to disappear. This is the worst mistake we can make, however, because the dark is the best time for growth. Relationships cannot survive all the time in the sun, there must be nights as well. How well you are able to grow together during the dark times will dictate the success of your relationship.
#2. Learn to fight
Fighting is not something to be avoided between partners. Actually, it is very natural. The thing to do, is to learn how to fight cleanly. Listen to each other and don’t block the other out. That will lead to productive fights.
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#3. Money talk
When you find yourself in a serious relationship, it’s critical that you get on the same page about money. It’s one of the material things in life that can truly tear people apart. Have honest and dry conversations about how you view, use, and plan to share (or not share) money.
#4. Soul connection
Daily routine and rhythm can be a killer in relationships, but only if you allow your bond to remain on that surface level. Instead, take the time and make the effort to connect and communicate from your souls.
#5. True vulnerability
Choosing to spend your time and life with one person is a big leap and in order to make it worthwhile, you will want to allow vulnerability to permeate your relationship everyday. Trust that your partner wants to hear the things you have to share and that they will protect these sentiments.
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you stopped being you! Make sure that no matter what, you are giving time to continuing to develop yourself in whatever ways bring you fulfillment.
#7. Give to receive
The trick to feeling happy, fulfilled, and loved, is to give more than you receive. The feelings that will arise within you when you give all of your love and energy to your partner are more comforting than those that come with receiving.
#8. Boredom happens
Life is not a romantic comedy or eight season television show. There will be times when your life gets just a little bit boring due to normal ebb and flow of relationships and duties of daily life. Don’t get tricked into thinking that this means you’re not happy in your relationship. Just seek new experiences together.
#9. Open up about sex
Sex is not something that feels the same for everybody. That is why you need to communicate with your partner about sex. In the beginning, you will both be running on the feeling of pure joy and exhilaration, but over time you will need to find ways to sustain your satisfaction. Don’t be shy to share what you’re thinking and listen to what your partner has to say!
#10. Core values
There’s obviously no need for you and your partner to be the same people, but matching core values do matter. This means that you both feel the same about key life issues such as family, relationships, and lifestyle. When you share the same or similar core values, your life will be more harmonious and enjoyable.
#11. Don’t forget to have fun
Don’t let time suck the fun out of your relationship. Make time to do things together that make you laugh and remember why you chose each other in the first place.
Real relationships are rewarding when you know what to expect and how to handle them properly. Don’t be scared, just think about what you’ll need to know in advance.
We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!
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