Nothing is simple or comfortable when it comes to breaking up. You will always feel nervous and unsure of how exactly to proceed. There are ways that you can ease your anxiety and create the best possible breakup situation, however. Breathe deep and follow these 7 steps when you need to breakup with someone:
#1. Think About Your Reasons
Before you go through with the breakup you’re thinking of, it’s really crucial to spend time reflecting on what has brought you to this point. In order for the breakup to contain honesty and dignity, you must be willing to truly face why it is happening. Then you will be able to communicate this clearly to your partner.
#2. Give Them Signs
Try not to break up with someone out of the blue, especially if it’s something you’re planning. Giving them a simple warning like a text earlier in the day asking to talk can be enough to allow them the time and space to brace themselves for something difficult.
#3. Plan Where You Will Talk
Breaking up is upsetting to everyone and doing it somewhere public may just make it all worse and more intense. If it’s possible and safe, try to plan the conversation that will lead to breakup for somewhere quiet and private. It will be helpful to you and your partner to be able to have a clear head while you express yourselves.
#4. Decide What to Say
The situation will be painful and hard enough as it is. There is no need to blame or attack. The atmosphere will feel much better if you highlight the good things about your relationship, while remaining clear about why you’ve initiated the breakup.
#5. Listen to Their Response
After you’ve said what you wanted to, you must allow your partner to answer with their own thoughts and feelings. This may be the most painful part for you, as you will hear their truths. Letting your partner have the space to talk will create a better environment between you, overall.
#6. Don’t React Too Quickly
If you can, try to restrain any outbursts of reaction or energy during the actual interaction of breaking up with your partner. While this may be something positive for you, your partner may feel differently, and rubbing it in their face is simply cruel.
When the breakup is over, the real test begins. Your ex may not have wanted things to end and may continue contacting you. It’s vital that you stand strong in your stance and keep your boundaries clear. If you’ve cut off contact, keep it that way by not responding.
Don’t panic about how your breakup will run its course. Just be prepared and keep your head held high.
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