All people tend to make mistakes. Our world is not perfect and you too. So, your life and relationship will never be ideal. Luckily, this is normal! Therefore, many men and women may experience communication problems. It’s because we have a different vision of the situation!
Nowadays, there are many books that tell that women are from another planet. How can you cope with this misunderstanding? Dr. B. Janet Hibbs, a psychologist, couples therapist and author of “Try To See It My Way”, says that there's hope as long as you're willing to adjust your "filter" - the part of your brain that processes what he says, spins it around and reacts to it.
Today, we would like to present you with a list of 8 common communication problems in relationships. Regardless what stage they are in, you can face these problems. Scroll down to see them!
What he says: "I'm sorry you feel that way."
What you hear: "You're being a psycho."
What he means: "I just really want this argument to be over."
Women tend to find out all the problems from start to finish in one DIY therapy session. As for men, they know more precisely when it is better to stop talking.
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What he says: "If you feel undervalued, ask for a raise."
What you hear: "Ugh, your problems are so simple - just fix it."
What he means: "Work's bothering you? Let me help!"
Don’t consider your guy’s attempts to help you as a condescending act. Men tend to see themselves as problem solvers in romantic relationships!
What he says: "Uh huh. Right. Yeah."
What you hear: "I couldn't be less interested in what you're saying."
What he means: "I want to hear your story, but it's been 10 minutes and still no punch line."
The thing is, men find it difficult to process long information from women. So, try to be shorter and more informative.
What he says: "I didn't tell you about the layoffs?"
What you hear: "My job's in jeopardy and I didn't even bother to tell you."
What he means: "I didn't want to worry you."
Most men do not like to reveal their fears. He just want to protect you from any adversity and to look strong and confident in your eyes!
What he says: "It's not a big deal."
What you hear: "How trivial."
What he means: "Let's not dwell on it."
Drop everything and spend a weekend with your man! He doesn’t like to hear about your work at weekends!
What he says: "I'm so in the mood."
What you hear: "I'm thinking about sex."
What he means: "I'm so in the mood-because I'm thinking about sex."
Men have seven to eight times more testosterone running through them than women do, making them hardwired for sex, even when you're just trying to cuddle.
What he says: "I need some space."
What you hear: "I don't want to be with you."
What he means: "I care about you, but I also want some more independence."
Women perceive such words negatively, because they start thinking about bad things. But the thing is, men use this phrase instead of: "I love the connection we have, but I miss spending time with my friends as well." Do not forget that your man also need some space!
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