It is so nice when someone tells you kind words, even emphasizing those aspects that are important to you! For sure, every woman at least once in her life has heard compliments addressed to her. However, not everyone can adequately respond to them.
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Psychologists are convinced: if in response to a pleasant phrase you do not say "Thank you", but give counter arguments, this indicates a low self-esteem and violations of psychological health. Denying your own superiority at this point in time, you, first, send yourself a self-deprecating signal, and, secondly, devalue the message received.
You may feel differently, but in reality, giving up compliments reduces and weakens your self-esteem, which in one way or another affects all areas of your activity. You need to avoid these four things after getting a compliment:
#1. Oh, this is all the stylist / filters / colleagues. When a friend talks about how great your hair looks today, you, instead of saying: "Thank you", give credit to someone else. Or, in a more serious conversation, when the boss appreciates your work for the current period, you start referring to the merits and talents of the people to whom you delegated some authority. Common situation? It is completely wrong. The next time you want to answer like that, remind yourself how hard it was for you to work to achieve your goal.
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#2. This is not so. When someone reminds you that you are an amazing person, just think about what happens in the person’s head. Instead of sincerely smiling and thanking him for his kindness, you start arguing with him, proving the opposite. It is strange, isn’t it?
#3. Really? Do you really think so? You may be concerned about the fact that people will find it arrogant that you perceive any compliment at face value. However, in fact, the need to clarify the seriousness of each compliment in your direction will look even more ridiculous.
#4. You have no idea what you are talking about. The fact is that in this way you send a signal to a person about mistrust and / or incompetence. So after several such situations, communication slowly, but surely will come to nothing.
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