Being in a romantic relationship is like having a garden. You can’t just sit back and watch it grow. If you do that, soon, all you will have will be a big patch of really healthy weeds growing out of cracked soil. Meaning that, if you don’t take care of your relationship, if you don’t nurture it, if you don’t put in the work, one day it will crumble all around you, and all you will be able to do will be to pick up the shattered pieces. To make sure that you are doing the right things, look for these signs.
#1. He sings to you
Maybe not literally, but he does things like braiding your hair, hiding love notes in unexpected corners of the house or even painting your nails (although he might not be too good at this one). The main idea here is that he makes you feel special, even if it means him getting out of his comfort zone. His reward: seeing your face light up with love.
#2. He kisses you softly
The way he kisses you says a lot about how he truly feels about you. Anyone can rush in for a full-on facial kissing attack. What not so many can deliberately do is kiss slowly, gently, taking their time, savoring each moment. It takes a lot of self-control on his side and it shows that he is strongly attracted to you, but seeks much more than just the transient pleasure of sex – a deeper, more emotional connection.
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#3. He still takes you out on dates
Whether you’ve been together for a year or for many decades, if he still takes you out on dates, it means he is still interested in deepening your relationship, in getting to know new sides of you. Even if this sounds corny, his love is more like a flowing river than a stagnating pool.
#4. He changes without being asked to change
If your man has deep feelings for you, he will WANT to change for you. Not change completely, but continuously refine himself, so he can be the best version of himself, the version he thinks you fully deserve.
#5. He goes to the mall with you
A lot of men avoid going clothes shopping like getting the black plague. If he is willing to sacrifice himself by making multiple passes around all the racks with you, or waiting an hour for you in front of the dressing room, he’s a keeper. He might not love shopping, but he wants to spend as much time with you as he can, so he will agree to this experience. The bonus is that he will probably be happy about you being happy.
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#6. He occasionally does your dishes
Even if he doesn’t have to, he still helps you with chores like washing dishes, without falling into the extreme of men like Adam Pontipee and thinking “What do I need manners for? I already got me a wife!” Although he is already doing his share of the house chores, he still wants to lighten your load, simply because he is head over heels in love with you.
#7. He looks at you when you’re talking
That means he is actually listening to you. If he is not looking at you while you two are talking, being distracted by either his phone, a jogging girl or even a caterpillar inching away, this is an issue and it is a relationship 101 warning sign. The one exception is when he is driving. At that moment, you do want him to look at the road and not into your eyes, even if you are talking.
#8. He asks you more than just monosyllabic questions
If he asks you open-ended questions (which need more than just “yes” or “no” responses), it shows that he has a deeper level of interest in you. He actually wants to have a meaningful discussion with you, not just make small talk. He wants to find out your thoughts, feelings, opinions. Basically, he wants to uncover the REAL you.
#9. He communicates with you
Even when you are deeply in love, not everything is butterflies and rainbows all the time. There will be tense moments, arguments, discussions. The important thing is how he handles those situations. If he is deeply in love with you, he will do everything he can to have an honest and open communication with you, thus helping you figure things out together, to successfully work through the inevitable rough patches.
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