Parenting is probably one of the toughest jobs in the world. What is more, you get paid for many, many years. Of course, every parent is looking a special approach to his kid and kids are all special. But there are some common mistakes which most parents do without even knowing it.
The thing is that as everything else changes so should the relationship between children and parents change. That is why we decided to bring up a couple of things that are not only out of date but can be pretty harmful to your children. These are eight phrases you should better avoid while talking with your kids. You will be surprised how some stereotypes we are used to can be wrong at the very core.
#1 Get it Out of Your System
This shows your kid that you do not approve the behavior and will only make him wish to do this more. Instead, you should better try to encourage more positive response by suggesting your kid an alternative that would satisfy equally both of you.
#2 You are a bad boy!
Sometimes you may think that your kid is pure evil, but there is no way you should tell him that out loud! This may, in fact, program him to behave this way or can lead to depression because your kid doesn't really want to be bad. That is why you should better tell him that he can do better than that and that being a good boy is a lot better.
#3 … Or Else …
This is the direct way to threaten your kid, and that is not something you really want. You can try to explain why the behavior is unacceptable, but you should also show him that is loved no matter what.
#4 Don’t be shy
This seemingly innocent phrase can, in fact, deepen your kid’s shyness. That is why instead of pushing your kid try to encourage him for even the smallest steps taken to overcome his shyness.
#5 Go to Your Room
You may think that you make your kid just go there and think about his behavior, but in reality that is unlikely to happen. That is why instead of banishing your kid to his room to teach him a lesson try keeping him around and help him reflect on his behavior and explain why it is bad.
#6 Why Can’t You Be More Like Your Sister
This is literally the worst phrase ever. You not only increase the level of rivalry between your kids you also demotivate one of them. To avoid that you should better treat them equally and try to help them develop mutual bond instead of rivalry.
#7 If You Really Loved Me
There is no use by playing with your kid’s feelings. They love you in their own way and once you say that you do not trust their love that may lead to dire consequences and you surely do not want to go that way.
#8 You’re Asking For It
Using violence and threats to your kids is never a great way of parenting. In most cases it leads to violence in their real lives, so better stop until you wish to raise a maniac.
We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!
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