Watching the man in your life distance themselves from you is hurtful and uncomfortable, especially if you don’t understand the reasoning behind the change. The thing you need to remember is that your partner is his own person.
Try not to blame yourself. Stay grounded and look at the situation logically. Men often disconnect in relationships and it usually has nothing to do with their partner.
The three most common reasons that men disengage are:
The fact of the matter is simply that men deal with stress differently than we do, as women. While your first response to feeling overwhelmed or stressed might be to call your closest friends to talk, or to share with your partner, men often do not react that way.
Men retreat when they feel stressed. They may want to spend more time alone or suddenly stop talking as much as usual. The mistake you’re probably making is taking this behavior personally. It is not about you!
To support your partner when he’s feeling stressed, the best thing you can do is to allow him to take the time and space he needs. Chances are when he realizes you’re walking beside him in his stressful times, he’ll seek comfort from you on his own.
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#2 Feeling Pressured
Men in relationships do their best to take care of their partners. There’s a fine line, however, as men don’t like the overpowering feeling of being needed.
Men absolutely want to feel desired and appreciated, but if your partner gets the sense that you rely solely on him for too many things, he may start to feel pressured. We may not realize it, but women tend to put a lot of expectations on their relationships.
Men need to maintain their sense of freedom. Put as much energy into your individual life as you do into your relationship and the sense of balance will enhance your connection.
Sometimes people experience doubt as they delve deeper into a relationship. We commonly experience this as women, but may not acknowledge that the men in our lives could also be feeling.
Uncertain about the direction of their relationship and their overall life is a natural cause for men to disassociate. You might feel your partner’s uncertainty is caused by you, but realistically, it could just be normal growing pains.
Stay calm and let your partner explore his experience with uncertainty. He may need to do this alone with inner reflection, so prepare yourself to let go of knowing what he’s thinking all the time. Pay attention to the signs you get and you’ll know whether it’s a phase or an overall attitude.
Knowing the main reasons that men pull away is helpful, but will not eliminate pain from your experience. Be true to yourself, listen to your instincts, and allow things to pass if the man in your life disengages and doesn’t come close again.
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