Breakups are meant to try us, to help us learn from our mistakes and be better people, better lovers. They hurt and, for a while, they feel like the end of the world, but don’t despair. Instead of dwelling on the past and prolonging your misery, think about the lessons you have learned and prepare yourself for the next chapter of your life.
#1. Create a better life
If you feel that your relationships fail for lack of good timing or because your life is a mess, now that you’re single, you should focus on building a better life for yourself, so that when your dream guy arrives, you’re ready to go the distance.
#2. Learn how to apologize
Apologizing is not a sign of weakness. It is proof that you are a strong and empathetic person who would much rather build bridges than feed her ego. It is likely that at least one of your relationships has failed because you didn’t know when to say that you’re sorry.
#3. Let go of the past
Forget, forgive and move on. Unless you get rid of the residual feelings you have for your ex, you won’t be fully committed to your new romance. Your boyfriend will feel it and will be hurt because of it. Too much baggage can ruin relationships.
#4. Cut down on social media
If you’re the jealous type, you should avoid social media as much as possible. Instead of worrying about the identity of all the girls commenting on his posts, you should try to work on your relationship and have fun doing it. Cut down on the time you spend on social media now that you’re single, to train yourself for later, when you meet the right guy.
#5. Be more organized
An organized outlook on life can bring much-needed stability into your next relationship. Start with small things, like organizing your books or your makeup bag, and move on to more complex things, like where you want your life to go.
#6. Love yourself
Look inside and learn how to love yourself. If you don’t do that, you’ll end up attracting all the wrong men, who will use you and discard you.
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#7. Respect yourself
Why would other people respect you, if you don’t respect yourself? Find out what you want and make it happen. Get dolled up more often, lose weight, get in shape, do what makes you happy. And, with your newly acquired self-respect, choose the partner that sees you for who you are.
#8. Be more positive
Nobody wants to date a person who brings them down all the time. Look at the bright side of things and be encouraging, instead of always complaining about everything. A positive outlook on life will not only improve your relationships, but will also help you grow as a person.
#9. Define your intentions
Before you embark on your next romance, define what you want from your partner and from your relationship. If you go in without a plan, chances are you’re going to drift and get lost. Make a list if you have to.
#10. Enjoy life
Find beauty and passion everywhere, even in the most ugly or difficult times. It sounds like a cliché, but if you follow your passions, go traveling or try something new once in a while, you’ll boost your mood and give meaning to your days. Be happy!
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