We are so desperately focused on what we deserve, that, in fact, we forget about what we have. Perhaps love has never been like you deserve, in your opinion, but perhaps you just do not notice that it makes your life better.
In any case, the definition of love is so blurry that we do not know how to express our feelings. This is not only about us, this is also about men. The novels depict unrealistic standards of confessions of love, for example, candlelight dinner with rose petals, or a huge bouquet of roses with chocolate.
Perhaps, love has nothing to do with the things a man buy for a loved woman, because love can not be measured by the number of flowers or candles decorating a romantic dinner. If a man decides to kiss someone in the pouring rain, this does not mean that he really loves this person.
Money can not buy happiness and love. Love is not a violent passionate novel, because in real life all need to work hard. When a woman says that effort is a necessity in a relationship, it does not mean that a man should buy ice cream, flowers or spend money on a book she always wanted to read.
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Effort is a more intimate thing than a waste of finance. Effort is in his attention to you, not to his friends, to other people or to his phone. Effort is when he is interested in how you are and wants to know your secret thoughts and feelings.
Effort involves making a pleasant surprise on your birthday and making you a holiday, because he thinks that the day is special. Effort is to let you feel needed and treat you like you are something special and the way you deserve.
Effort is not connected with material things. Effort is how a man manifest his love and feelings. The point is that a woman does not need to tell a man what she needs, because he needs to understand this. It is about kissing her forehead and hugs in the morning, because he knows how angry she is when she wakes up early.
It is about not making her feel that she is the one who is trying for the relationship. The point is to put her in priority, no matter how busy a man is. The fact is that a woman deserves the love she gives, because a man knows that she is his.
Here are some tips for women who want to make their men put more effort into the relationship:
1. Try not to be always available for your man. He should not think that he has a great power over you.
2. Do not answer all his texts. He should find time to call you from time to time.
3. You should be cool and quiet, do not show too many emotions.
4. You should demand the best things that he can give you, do not be satisfied with small things.
5. If you need to show your disapproval, try to become more distant from him.
6. Wear seductive lingerie.
7. Show him your great attitude when he does something you like.
8. If he does something wrong, you do not need to explain him too much. Make him understand his fault.
9. Do not have power struggles with your man. You are a lady.
10. Encourage him to help other people. In such a way he will try to help you more in the future.
11. You need to be strong and to show what you like and what you do not like, what is good for you and what is not.
Unfortunately, there can be such situations when men do not understand that they need to put some effort and just take everything for granted. In this case, you can give him an ultimatum. A really loving man will try his beat to be with a woman.
You should not sound too strict. Try a calm manner of speaking in a comfortable situation. For example, you can cook a delicious dinner or propose a dinner in a restaurant. He should understand that you are worrying about your common future.
If you see that he does not understand you and he is not ready to change something, this is a clear sign that you need another partner. This will be better than wasting time with the wrong men. On the other hand, if you see that he agrees with you and he wants to be with you, he will change himself, you will see.
We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!
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