Relationships, even the best, are not always ideal. They are full of disagreements and conflicts, but it is important to understand that this is normal. However, some quarrels are still a worrying sign: in particular, when your partner criticizes certain things in you all the time.
Of course, criticism is different and not always bad. However, sometimes it has a negative impact not only on the relationship, but also on your personal perception of yourself. If you see that your partner is constantly trying to change you, you can start doubting in yourself.
In order to have a great relationship, your partner should not change you all the time, he should want to see how you grow near him. This is an absolute indicator of a loving, caring and serious man. You should not waste your time trying to change yourself in a favor of your partner.
People are building serious relationships at the age when they already have experience behind their back and their own opinion on the organization of life in general. Everybody has different experience and life views. Therefore, it is not always easy to build a harmonious relationship with your partner.
Everyone has to reckon with the partner's opinion and adapt to it. Quarrels, mutual claims - any couple can pass through this. A partner will necessarily open your eyes to some not very pleasant things. However, relationship is needed not for scandals, but for mutual joy from it.
Therefore, it is necessary to seek a compromise, although in practice it is not so easy to come to a common denominator. It is impossible to fundamentally abandon the desire to change something in a loved one. His point of view seems to be the only true, but the partner does not see the obvious facts.
There is always a conflict concerning the choice of a life partner inside each of us. There is a certain type or idea of an ideal partner, but there is an image of a mother or a father, which influences our choice really very much.
We feel calm and comfortable next to a person, with whom we can make all those actions that seem familiar to us. Even if the image of the parents is far from ideal, this is what we know best what we are used to. Therefore, we unconsciously choose the familiar.
A man can change his partner's habits in the partner for years and, ultimately, achieve this, but the relationship breaks down - he no longer seems close and dear to her. Therefore, the desire to change a partner needs to be redirected to a constructive desire to change oneself.
Why do we need relationships in which we have to constantly change ourselves? If the main motive is to facilitate one's own life, then attempts to change a partner are obviously doomed to failure. Real actions and wishes to change something in the beloved person are only possible, if we are motivated by a true desire to help.
In this case it is better to start with yourself. Is anything wrong in your relationship? Your partner should revise his line of acting, instead of trying to change you. We can direct a person's thoughts to a problem, but we should not minimize the importance of our partner’s views and past.
Things that a man does not want to see in himself, he sees in his woman, that is close to him and near him. In addition, what a man does not like what he sees. As a result, he passionately wishes to change her. He constantly reminds her of her imperfection.
There is one more point in this situation. In fact, the man himself would like to be spontaneous, cheerful, liberated, etc. However, he can not afford it. The difficulty is that he does not understand this, and then the man forbids to his woman show herself (special quality) to him.
You, as a woman, should help your man understand himself. You should not obey him, even if he sincerely convinces you that he will love the new version of you even more. He will not. He can even fall out of love with you. It often happens that when a woman becomes what her husband wants to see her, he just stops loving her and begins to cheat on her.
You should develop in yourself those qualities that your man used to like, when he met you. You should grow together and change together. Only in this case you will have many years of uneasy, but happy relationship with your man.
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