You have been together for a long time, you still love and respect each other and have a good time together… But the passion isn’t there anymore. Is there a solution? Does it mean that your relationship is about to end? Not necessarily.
Sex life tends to become toned down when you’ve been sharing roof for a while. Routine, day-to-day stress, the novelty has worn off, it’s all normal and natural. It’s also a good reason to be frank with yourself and reflect on your relationship and sex life.
One of the partners may feel inclined to start some “drama” by reminding their other half of the things that are no longer there in their relationship. This desperate attempt to go back to where it all started is not really helpful and creates unnecessary tension. Understand that changes are not always bad. Understand also that we tend to put too much stress on the sex side of things.
Instead, try to understand why the spark between the two of you has been missing. Let’s go over some possible reasons - denying problems may signify that something went wrong somehow.
#1. You are afraid of change and tend to stick to certain routines and habits.
#2. You may realise you’re not showing enough attention or affections towards your partner. Even smallest things matter! They do. They still do.
#3. Your partner may be ignoring or oblivious to the strain you’re currently under.
#4. You or your partner, or the both of you, chose to pretend like certain issues don’t exist. You are not communicating enough.
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#5. Your partner is working too much, or have they been unfaithful to you?
#6. You may realize you are actually no longer in love but continuing the relationship out of habit or because it’s comfortable. You might be afraid to start looking for someone else.
Is your relationship is still worth fighting for, and it’s just a lack of passion and not something more serious? Try booking a therapist.
But first, start being open with yourself and your partner, learn to understand their point of view as well. Make peace with each other… And that spark, it will return!
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