Falling in love and being in love is amazing. The both of you can’t get enough of each other, feeling euphoric and ecstatic at the simple sight of each other. You revel in being close. But the time goes on, and something shifts. Things are not quite as they used to be. You’re not getting enough attention, or you are being ignored, or you realize your differences are not that compatible.
The understanding that your partner doesn’t love you anymore, or the understanding that you deserve better and need to look for something - someone - else may be scary. Ending a long-term relationship is not easy.
But once you settle on the thought that it’s high time you rediscovered yourself and stopped caring for someone who doesn’t love you back, these steps below may help you.
#1. There’s little to no love left worth fighting for. Change is the only constant thing in our lives. People change, circumstances change, perspectives change. You used to be so happy around each other, but it’s just a memory now. And it’s okay. Realizing that there’s nothing you can do about it is okay, too.
#2. Think about all the what’s and why’s. Why is it that you still want him in your life? What do you still expect from your relationship? What is the worst that can happen when you part ways? Think about what makes you happy, don’t pour all your energy into saving the relationship that is no longer there.
#3. Focus on yourself. There’s no “we” anymore, that’s a fact. Re-learn to function on your own again. Before you met this person you’re getting over at this moment, you learned a lot about yourself. You are a great friend to yourself, and no one is capable of rescuing you in better manner than… who? Than yourself, correct. This heartbreak should not ruin your chances at becoming your best friend once again.
#4. Be gentle with yourself. Do you feel like when he stopped loving you, he disrespected you somehow? Same thing with your very self. Where there’s not love, there’s no respect. Know your value.
#5. Introduce yourself to yourself. No better time than now to change things, to try new things, to explore and go on adventures. The goal is to be at peace with yourself.
#6. Move on! Once it’s final, don’t linger in hopes of… of something. In hopes of what, exactly? It’s important that you don’t remain stuck in the past. He won’t come back. Close that page you wrote together and move on.
#7. Don’t put on the brave face, be brave. Be brave and strong. You might be going through much pain, you’re scared and have kind of fallen apart. Remind yourself that you’re strong. That it’s not the end of the world. That you’ll overcome.
#8. There’s plenty of love for you to tap into. First and foremost, the love for yourself. You are beautiful, smart, kind, loving, selfless. The fact that someone didn’t care enough to value this for longer shouldn’t diminish your worth in your own eyes. There’s so much of everything in the world around you. Remember that this is an experience, and out of every experience, wisdom and insight is born. One day, you’ll realize that you’re now a stronger person. One day, you’ll fall in love again!
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