When you’re in a relationship where you feel secure, happy, and appreciated, it’s natural to start thinking about the possible future. Whether or not children have been an active topic of discussion, it’s not too early to pay attention to your guy’s potential as a father. Use this 10 clues to help you recognize the hidden Dad in your man:
#1. Sense of responsibility
Don’t think that consistency and discipline are boring or unimportant traits to pay attention to in the man you’re with. Realistically, these traits show you that your guy is capable and comfortable living with maturity and will be able to be the adult figure your child will need.
#2. Consistent attitude
Mood swings and inconsistent ways of reacting to situations are not elements you want to add in the creation of an environment for your children. It’s important that your guy knows when it’s appropriate to be tough or gentle depending on the situation. Above all, you want to be sure that both tones of feedback will be delivered consistently with a loving look in your guy’s eyes.
Pay attention to how much your guy shows you affection of his own desire. Not to analyze what that means for you, but to consider how that will trickle down to future children. A guy that’s comfortable showing vulnerability and behaving with tenderness will offer a lot more to a child than one who prefers to act strong all the time.
#4. Calm and collected
Children come with a free share of extra stress. While mothers may be more naturally equipped to handle this, you’ll want a partner in crime who can share the weight of the load with you. If your guy meets the stressors from different areas in his life with patience and determination rather than buckling under pressure, then you can trust they’ll handle fatherhood with care.
#5. Reasonably protective
If you’re man is someone who thinks about the well-being of the people he loves without being an overbearing presence in their lives, take note for your future. Having a child can feel like you need to protect an egg in a stampede, but the reality is that you can’t control everything. You’ll want your man to be a father who is protective, but knows when to let their child test the waters.
Parenting is a two-person job. A father needs to be reliable for their children and someone they can go to for support. If your guy lets you cry in his embrace and helps you with unexpected issues, it’s a pretty good sign that he’ll approach his job as father with the right mindset.
#7. Comfortable with children
One of the most obvious signs you could see from your guy to give you confidence in their future as a father is if they’re already comfortable interacting with children. If he has fun playing with kids and shows genuine interest in conversations with them, rest assured that your future children will be enjoying their daddy-time.
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As the saying goes, you’ll need a community of people to help in raising your children. That means that you and your guy will spend time talking and socializing with a wide circle of people, including family and friends. Pay attention to his energy when you attend gatherings together. If he’s capable of meshing with your family and bringing you into his, then you know your child will benefit from the love of all the people around them.
#9. Enjoys downtime
There are times to go out and let loose and there are other times when you need to stay home and relax. If your guy hasn’t graduated from his party phase yet, be cautious. You’ll want the father of your children to be someone who’s able to prioritize his family and find joy in his time spent at home with them.
#10. Expresses appreciation
When it comes to family, it’s the little things that matter. If your guy shows his love and appreciation for you in small, but significant ways, that will continue once you have children. A father is someone who makes their children feel special. With small, sweet gestures, they will feel like the center of your guy’s world.
Being a good father is a choice in active behaviors that shape a child’s experience. While no one can be fully prepared to be a father, there are ways of living that can enhance a man’s capability.
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