Sometimes flirting in person is intimidating. There might be too many people around or maybe you’re just not comfortable approaching the person you like face-to-face. Luckily, in this day and age, you can rely on the internet as another means to express what you’re feeling.
It’s a thin line to walk, however, because communication can be awkward online. You want to take advantage of the opportunity to experience possible rejection in private, while still fostering the chance for a relationship that moves beyond the internet. Use these 10 tips to help make your online flirting game fluid and effective:
#1. Notice Your Crush When You’re Around Them
Don’t worry if you feel too shy to engage in deep conversation when you’re around your crush. Simply letting them know you notice them with an easy greeting will do. Be sure to take note of what they’re wearing and anything specific they’re doing. Later in the day, you can approach them online with a compliment or question about their outfit or activities. This way they’ll know that you’ve been paying attention to them.
#2. Learn About What Music, Movies, and Shows They Like
Listen to what your crush talks about in person and posts online so that you can learn about their interests. If you find out what kind of music they like, you can search and share songs and videos with them. If you know the movies and shows your crush likes to watch, you can read about them or watch them yourself so you have things to talk about online.
Your crush will notice that you have similar interests as them and will be intrigued.
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#3. Keep the ‘Likes’ at a Reasonable Amount
Although you may find every single photo they post like-worthy, don’t make the mistake of actually ‘liking’ each one. This can be perceived as a bit overbearing. What you want to do is make your presence on their social media known by liking a few photos and other posts. Your crush will analyze the things you’ve ‘liked’ and will wonder why you chose those posts and not others, and their interest will be peaked.
#4. Engage Through Comments
Use comments on photos and posts as a way to start an exhange. Rather than posting a simple emoji or compliment about a post or photo, try to say something that will engage your crush. You could ask a question about a photo’s location or mention that you also enjoy the activity your crush posted about. Lure them in with open-ended comments.
#5. Leave Something to Be Discovered
Mystery is an important part of any flirtation. Once your crush knows too much about you, they may get bored with the hunt. You want to keep them wanting to know more. You can do this by making sure not to respond right away to any messages or comments from your crush. Instead read the message or comment, wait a few minutes, and think of a good reply to show your crush that you’re interested but not desperate.
Also, practice answering questions about yourself with pieces of information rather than the whole answer. This way, your crush will want to ask follow-up questions and extend the conversation.
#6. Highlight the Photos You Have Together
If there are photos of you together on social media, be sure to tag yourself and your crush. This makes a statement to your friends and his about your time together. Whether they are new or old photos, tagging them will be a reminder to your crush that the two of you enjoy each other’s company.
#7. Mention Them in Your Status
Don’t write a status dedicated to your love for your crush and tag them in it! This is not the best move. Instead post something that you shared during the day or a link to a song or movie that you both like. It will be obvious to your crush that you’re post is meant for him, without putting him in the spotlight.
#8. Share Your Real Opinions
Finding differences in opinions with your crush doesn’t mean that you’re not a good pair. Actually, it gives you more fuel for conversation. When you come across things where your opinions differ, take advantage of the opportunity to delve deeper with your crush and learn about the roots of his opinions.
Never be scared to share your real opinion. Your crush will admire your honesty and your conversation will be more interesting.
#9. Stay Updated Everywhere
Take the time to find and follow all of your crush’s social media accounts and connect with him. Once you’re connected, stay updated on what he posts. You want to be interacting online with him on a daily basis, but strategically. Each day you can choose one social media platform to comment on or ‘like’ photos and posts. Your crush will see that you notice all that he expresses.
Just be sure not to overdo it with messages, comments, and ‘likes.’ A lower volume of interactions timed consistently is the best method.
#10. Play Time Games
If you and your crush will be in the same hangout spot, schedule your arrival and departure around his. That is, purposely avoid being there at the same time as him. Be sure to post about your time at the hangout spot so that your crush sees you were there. It might make him message you to talk about how you missed each other. Sometimes playing these little games helps to leave something to your crush’s imagination.
Flirting online can help you feel safer and more in control of what you say and do. By all means, practice your flirting skills on the internet, but make sure that you don’t go overboard with online interaction. Follow these clear tips and you’ll be taking your flirting to the next level in no time!
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