Men are hard to crack, sometimes. Maybe you’ve dated guys where you felt like things were going well and all of a sudden he lost interest. The truth is that you may have made a tiny mistake that guys take as reasons to look elsewhere. How can you be aware of what mistakes those could be?
There are 10 common reasons that guys lose interest:
The first rule of guys is that no matter what stage a relationship reaches, they need to maintain their sense of freedom. If a guys starts feeling like you use him as your main source of everything like entertainment and happiness, he’ll start to feel suffocated.
Maintain your independence as a separate person from your guy and live your life each day. Your guy will feel like he can breathe and you won’t feel like he’s lost interest in you.
Everyone suffers from insecurities. Nobody is saying that you need to become some kind of superwoman who feels no doubt. The thing to remember is that if a guy is dating you or in a relationship with you, then he’s into you.
Be careful not to spend too much time searching for reassurance from him. Guys want a woman who is confident in herself and can read the signs he sends that he’s into them.
Even if the relationship between you and your guy started with fireworks and continued with deeper connection, he may reach the point where he begins to panic. This probably doesn’t have anything to do with you, specifically.
Commitment feels scary to guys. When a relationship gets serious, they start thinking of all the responsibility that can come along with choosing to fully commit. Try to keep it light between you and your guy, and let things flow naturally.
This should be an easy one to relate to. No one likes to be constantly criticized. Of course, you will notice your guy’s flaws, he notices yours as well! There is no need to nitpick at them all the time, however. That’s a fast way to send your guy packing.
#5. The One Before You
There are some things you simply can’t control, and your guy’s feelings for his ex are one of them. The sad fact is that if he’s not over his ex he shouldn’t have started dating, but he did and now you’re on the losing side of it.
Remind yourself that it’s not personal to you and let him go to deal with his feelings. You don’t need to fight for attention that’s going somewhere else!
#6. No Challenge
Guys really enjoy the hunt. It’s an instinctual part of them that they need to engage in. Dating should be a process, not a two-day event that ends in you giving him all of yourself. Let him feel the need to impress you and win you over. You’ll see that he stays interested and your connection gets deeper.
#7. High-Strung Attitude
Try to relax once in awhile. Guys don’t like to stick with girls who always have reasons not to do things. If you’re high-maintenance by nature, figure out how you can deal with your needs yourself so that your guy doesn’t feel like he needs to cater to you at every moment. If you’re not careful, your guy could get tired and drift away.
Ladies, you are not his other mother! Guys do not want to be in a relationship with a girl who is constantly nagging them about every little thing that they don’t like. Say what you need to say once, and let it rest, he hears you. If you start to sound like an authoritative parent, your guy is sure to lose interest.
He’s your partner not your employee. One of the biggest mistakes we women make in relationships is forgetting to leave our bossiness at the door when we’re spending time with our guy. Chances are he deals with enough expectation and demand at work, he wants to be able to relax when he’s with you. Make clear boundaries, but don’t overemphasize them!
Your guy wants to be yours, which is why he’s dating you. Try to let that be enough. Guys do not like the feeling that their girl is overly possessive. When he’s out doing his own thing, let him enjoy it, don’t send him endless messages about how much you miss him. You’re together, but neither one of you owns the other. It’s important to respect that!
Keep these things in mind when you’re with a guy you really care about so that you can avoid him losing interest in you!
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