When a long-term relationship ends, many pieces are left to crumble, and it feels like you won’t be able to put yourself back together again. You will, it just takes time and patience. Be gentle with yourself and stick with the pain and process.
Follow these 10 tips to help ease the transition after a long-term love ends:
A long-term relationship holds a lot of feelings, energy, and expectations. When it ends, it feels like you’ve lost an important part of yourself. This is natural, and you need to allow yourself time to grieve what will not be. Spend time feeling your emotions before moving on.
#2. Mind Your Diet
While grieving, it’s easy to turn to foods that fill us with comfort in the immediate aftermath. Try hard to avoid eating junk and to fuel your body with healthy foods. You’ll avoid extra exhaustion and stress, and you’ll feel stronger to face each day.
#3. Notice Small Steps
After losing your long-term partner, you will probably feel like half of you is cut off. Start doing things you did together by yourself again, and congratulate yourself on managing. Small steps are what build the staircase which will take you up and out of the pain of loss.
#4. Rest Up
Don’t get caught in the trap of allowing yourself to stay up longer than usual and dwell on what went wrong. Keep your normal sleep schedule in tact, and maybe even add a few hours each week to help calm your nerves and keep you energetic enough to carry on.
#5. Enjoy Your Hobbies
Think about the things you enjoy doing that you didn’t spend as much time on when you were in a long-term relationship. Allow yourself to slowly get back to doing and enjoying those hobbies.
#6. Be Reflective
When your initial grief has passed, it’s important to take an honest look at yourself and at the situation and reflect on the part you played. This will allow you to understand how you can improve your behaviors and choices for your next relationship.
#7. Feel Good
Crying and crying without helping yourself will not lead to a successful recovery after a breakup. Choose something each day that you know will make you feel good and do it! It could be watching a funny movie, cooking a meal you like, or calling a friend to chat.
#8. Let Go of His Things
If you’re sentimental by nature, holding on to things he left at your place may seem like a good idea, for ‘memories.’ Don’t do it! The faster you let go of his things and remove them for your space, the easier moving on will be.
#9. Give to Gain
One of the most effective ways to distract yourself from the pain of a breakup is to find ways to help other people. Stop zooming in on your pain and focus on what you can give to others. Serve at a soup kitchen, volunteer to walk shelter dogs, do anything that will help get you out of your own head and help you gain perspective.
#10. Cut it Off
To truly allow yourself to move on from your ended relationship, you need to cut off all lines of communication from your ex. This step often takes time and is the most difficult, but it is also the most effective. It will sting at first, but you’ll notice your wound healing faster once you cut it off.
Getting over a long-term relationship is no easy task. Make it as simple as possible by following these 10 tips.
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