Finding the guy of our dreams is great, but what happens when they’re not sure if they want to commit? This can feel like a knife to your heart. Commitment can feel scary to a man because they don’t always think in the same long-term way as women do. There are ways to help your man come closer to a stronger commitment, however.

Use these 4 helpful tips when you want your man to commit:

#1. Make the Right Choice

The first thing to realize when you start to think about how to get a man to commit to you is that you need to be sure that you have chosen the right man! This is one of the easiest mistakes to make in love. Sometimes we fall in love blindly, and ignore many signs that point out an incompatible union.

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Before trying to make a man commit solely to you and the future of your relationship, evaluate whether that is actually what you and he both want. When you’re in a relationship who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with him, then things will fall into place by themselves.

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Successful relationships do not develop out of one person’s hard work to make the other commit. They grow from mutual interest and desire in making the partnership last. If you are not experiencing this type of feeling from the guy you’re with, then no matter what you do, you won’t be able to force him to commit!

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#2. Maintain Attraction

Sexual attraction is more than just an added bonus in relationships. In order for couples to feel happy and satisfied on a long-term basis, the sexual attraction needs to be fostered. The key to this idea is the fact that both partners will need to work to keep the chemistry alive. In the beginning of any relationship, sexual attraction comes easily as it’s a new experience. As time passes and you become accustomed to each other, boredom or complacency may set in. Don’t let this make you feel insecure! This does not need to affect your self-esteem. It is a natural part of relationships and is simply a phase to be experienced and passed through.

Focus on maintaining your personal feeling of sexuality. Suggest things that you want to try and try things that your man suggests. Keeping the lines of communication open and being flexible is the best way to maintain mutual attraction.

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#3. Connect Deeply

If you want a man to commit to you in a serious way, then you need to bring your true self to the table. A simple sexual connection is not enough to make anybody want to commit their whole life to you. When you meet someone that you’re interested in committing to, it’s important that you take the time to get to know them and to allow them to know you on a deep level. Superficial conversation and exploration will leave a lot to be desired in a relationship and will not allow the opportunity for the development of feelings like trust and love.

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Be willing to open yourself up to the man you want in your life. Share your deepest fears and desires, trusting that he will respond with interest and respect. When he feels your openness with him, he will feel safe to reciprocate. Learn his potential and aspiration and support it with genuine feelings.

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#4. Focus Your Energy

In any relationship that you find yourself in, it is essential that you do not let your negative energy which was affected by past experiences get in the way of what could be. Your energy is felt by the person you’re with and vice versa.

Instead of worrying about all the things that could possibly go wrong, focus on all the things that are currently going right. By living your relationship through the lens of positive energy, it will feel lighter and more enjoyable.

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The man you’re with will experience this energetic focus and will be able to understand that you are serious about him and the relationship you’re building together. Contribute what you have to give to your man and he will do the same!

There is no magic way to make a man commit to you. It happens when a combination of factors are working well between you and the person you love. Spend your time working on important aspects of your relationship and commitment will come when it’s time.

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We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!

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