They say that love conquers all. As it should, because love is the most beautiful of all human emotions. But how do we realize if what we’re feeling is indeed true love or just infatuation? We’ve all been through those lengthy relationships that seem to go places, only to suddenly hit a massive roadblock. The true love we thought we had found turned out to be just another illusion. It is very frustrating, but it will keep happening until you learn to read the signs.
#1. When you weren’t even looking
True love is mischievous. When we are looking for it, it stays hidden and mocks us. It will come out when we least expect it. On the other hand, if you’re just starting a relationship with someone because they were available at the time, and you forget about looking for love, lo and behold, it will appear out of nowhere. It tends to appear in relationships that are allowed to grow and expand. If you feel that, without significant effort, true love has just plopped into your lap, the one who made you feel this way might just be the one.
#2. He shares your values
Our values are just that – personal. So, to find someone who shares those values with us is pretty difficult, especially if we’re unsure what our own values are. If you are lucky enough to not only know what your values are, but to find someone that shares them with you, you might just have found the love of your life.
#3. You’re motivated
Before you met him, you were totally out of whack. You were struggling to find meaning to your life, struggling to motivate yourself to do anything, lacking any kind of drive, maybe even feeling you had lost your way. Now, everything’s turned upside down. Everything feels bright, full of possibilities. And it is because of him. If that is the case, he might just be your one.
#4. Silence is golden
You are totally comfortable with the moments of silence between the two of you. We’ve all had those awkward moments of silence on our dates, when you have no idea how to continue the conversation, but you feel you somehow must. With him it’s not like that at all. Silence is like honey flowing all around the two of you, golden and bright.
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#5. You get each other
If you don’t really click with a person, you realize it soon enough. They just don’t get you, or maybe you just don’t get them. With the one, even when telling the weirdest jokes or doing the strangest things, he gets you. He totally does.
#6. You work hard to resolve your arguments
Couples argue. That’s a fact and, according to psychologists, it is the sign of a healthy relationship. The question here is how the argument develops. If you both work hard towards a positive resolution, trying to find common ground, trying to make sure that you truly communicate, that you actually understand what each is telling the other, then he is probably your one true love.
#7. He supports you unwaveringly
If he is the one, he will have your back all the time. He will support you in all you do. He will give wings to your dreams, he will give you courage to fly, no matter what others might think.
#8. You trust him unconditionally
Your one true love should be the one who you trust unconditionally. You can tell him your deepest, darkest secrets, and you can give him the keys to your home. You know he will keep everything between just the two of you, always. It is the same with your relationship. You KNOW he will never do anything to ruin it and that makes you feel unbelievably safe and secure.
#9. Love is your only emotion
No matter how you might feel during an argument, love always wins. He never hurts you and you don’t have reasons to feel bitter or jealous. The only thing you constantly feel is the pure, bright love for him. You only feel this way when you’ve found your true love. This is the feeling that will help you face the harsh reality, the trials life puts in front of you. With it, you can do anything.
#10. Your goals and aspirations match up
if your goals and aspirations don’t match up with his, it is unlikely that he is the love of your life. Do you have similar passions? Do you feel like you’re going in the same direction in life? Each of us has their own long-term goals, but if yours don’t match up with the ones of your partner, you won’t be able to last the distance.
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We at BetterMe want everyone to know and experience true love. It is out there for everyone and until it knocks on your door we are here to remind you that you deserve the best love!
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