Look, we know, modern dating is tough. But to be fair, when hasn’t it been? At least today, we can be frank with our partners about the things that annoy us in them. With a healthy dose of communication and subtle manipulation, it is perfectly possible to turn the things around and make them play out in our favour.
Okay, so you meet someone decent enough that you might actually consider dating him or turning your fling into a more serious relationship. But, as nice and awesome as he is, there must be at least one (or thirty three thousand two hundred and fifty-one) thing that will annoy you.
Actually, depending on the severity of this annoying habit, chances are that you’ll be (or already are) choosing between dating him or dumping him. Is he hesitating before reaching to grab his wallet out of his jeans pocket? Is he too attached to his virtual buddies and online games?
The line is really thin. But would it be appropriate to capitulate before truing some tricks?
So, want to get rid of these habits that drive you crazy? We know of three good, surefire ways to do that.
#1. One habit at a time
Sometimes, it’s tough to choose between wanting to selling his PS4 on EBay and making eat his dirty socks that he throws around the room like confetti. Have patience. Twenty-six rounds of negotiation with the girlfriend can turn into packing your bags and going to Mom’s (your or his). Don’t turn into the legendary “crazy ex who’s impossible to please”. Take a deep breath and tackle one thing at a time. He’ll have the time to think about changing his habits, and you won’t come off as too demanding. Don’t mock him for not being able to conformorming to your simple request at once.
#2. Remember that he doesn’t have telepathic abilities
This has been said tens of millions of times, and we’ll say it again: Communication. Works. Especially if it’s honest and productive communication. You’re both adults, surely, you’re able to take some constructive criticism and work on your character if you realize there indeed is space for improvement. Imagine a scenario (or just think about his recent actions) where something made you mad. And he keeps repeating same actions over and over again. Ignoring your certain needs. Or doing the things his way which is not entirely correct, to your understanding. Do you think it’s worth it to accumulate irritation and then, at some point, to let it all go via heated screaming? No, this is counter-productive. Make sure to communicate your needs early on and nip scandals in the bud.
#3. Change the angle
Simple. Instead of describing a situation in a way where he has enough space to maneuver, turn your statement around and argue, don’t leave him any chances to justify himself. For instance, don’t say “You stopped saying nice things about me,” for he will start listing instances where he did say something nice to you. Make your saddest/most disappointed/confused/whatever-else-works face and go for “I don’t really know anymore if you still think I’m pretty”.
Try these out and remember: every boy and man is different, so the process of searching for the right strategy never stops.
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