Remember that constant thrill at the beginning of your relationship? Everything was new, there were always new experiences, you were just giddy with excitement all the time. The feeling persisted for a while, even after you moved in together.
But, after some time, things started to quiet down. It is unavoidable if two people spend so much time together. We stop trying so hard to impress our partner. The routine will slowly rear its ugly head, without us even noticing. Communication and interaction become scarce, and the only time things seem to change a bit is during the weekend. You are bored, and the relationship looks like it’s kicking its last.
It is scary because you’ve never thought that your relationship could become uninteresting, boring even. But that is what happens when real life gets in the way. And that is exactly why you now need a relationship defibrillator, before it flatlines completely. Here are a few tips to bring back excitement and fun, to claw your relationship back from the edge.
#1. Define boredom
The first step you need to take is to define what an uninteresting relationship looks like, from your point of view. Maybe you think a relationship isn’t interesting if it doesn’t include a daily adventure. But your partner might think differently. It is all about perception and communication. Find out what is what, and you will have a baseline to start from.
#2. Do new things together
Remember when you were first dating? He was showing you new things, and you were showing him new things. The first time you do something is exciting, isn’t it? Even if you two have already tried a lot of new things together, it doesn’t mean you need to stop. And, even if both of you have introduced the other to all you know so far, it does not mean that you can’t learn and do new things together. Take a chance and try something new.
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#3. Have a date night
If you stay at home all the time, there is a good chance the relationship is going to lose its spark. You might even start feeling resentful towards each other. Go out! Book a date night each week in your calendar and try to do something different each time. Pretend you two are dating again. It will keep you from crawling up the walls.
#4. Go away for a night
Many couples look forward to their one holiday a year to be away together. That’s a drop in an ocean if you think about the rest of the year spent doing the same things over and over and over again. What you need to do is get out of the house and head somewhere romantic. Forget about the dishes for the weekend, just dress up and head out to some small hotel. It doesn’t need to be expensive. The goal is for you to get out of the house and go somewhere different for more than just a few hours.
#5. Have fun together
Even if each of you have their own way to have a lot of fun, it is important for you to find a way to have fun together. Search for an activity that excites both of you, and just go for it. It will feel great and relight some of the fire.
#6. Take a course together
At this point you might argue that you don’t have the freaking time to take a whole course right now. Let’s agree to disagree. If you truly want it, there is always time to be found. Taking a course together means you are doing a common activity at the same time, learning something new and discovering new things about each other. You can even stop for drinks after class. Have fun!
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