Communication is the key to any happy relationship. The better the communication is, the stronger the bond between the partners and the longer and happier their time together is. We don’t mean to say that happy couples don’t fight. They do, more often than you’d think, but they share their opinions and respect one another, so that the fighting becomes a constructive force, rather than a destructive one.
In a nutshell, it’s important to listen as much as you talk (sometimes even more) and, whatever you do, try to avoid these 10 examples of miscommunication.
#1. “Shut the Hell up!”
Nobody wants to hear that. This small phrase will make your boyfriend feel like his opinions don’t matter. You might be annoyed with him, but try and listen before dismissing everything he says. You are allowed not to agree with his thoughts, but you’re not allowed to shut him up.
#2. “My ex never upset me in this way.”
Wow, you really went there. What man likes being compared to your ex? No man. You saying this will put pressure on your relationship because it will make your boyfriend feel like he is always competing with another man for your affection. It’s tiresome and it will wear you both down quickly.
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#3. “Why don’t you grow your own set of balls?”
This is hurtful. It’s an all-out attack on his masculinity and he won’t react well to it. Not to mention that it’s unconstructive and very petty. Try to come up with another way of expressing your disappointment in him. Perhaps one that will build his masculinity up instead of tearing it down even more.
#4. “Wow, your friend is really cute.”
Yes, we get it. We’ve been there too. But thinking it and saying it are two very different things. I bet you wouldn’t like it if he were to comment on your best friend’s attractiveness. Leaving jealousy aside, this comment will make anyone feel like they’re not enough for you.
#5. “Your parents are really driving me crazy.”
As true as that may be, badmouthing his family is bad manners. No matter how much you dislike them, his parents are the closest people to him. They raised him, loved and cared for him all his life. So, even if they drive you insane, they’re family.
#6. “We really need to talk.”
Now you’ve done it. You wanted to talk about not leaving his dirty socks around and he’s completely clammed up. This phrase will put him in a very defensive and paranoid mood that’s not going to get the discussion anywhere good. In their minds, you might as well have started with “I’m breaking up with you.”
#7. “You’re getting fat.”
Really? How would you like it if he told you that? Encouraging him to improve himself is always welcome, but this phrase will only bring him down. It’s as if you’re telling him that he’s not good enough for you anymore.
#8. “I’ve taught you well.”
Are you his mom? No? Then stop it with the condescending tone. You’re equals in your relationship, so any phrase that’s going to put you on a superior footing than him should be avoided at all costs.
#9. “I can’t believe that you remember that.”
He is not a doofus. He remembers important things if he wants to. So, don’t assume he is the stereotypical man who forgets anniversaries and doesn’t pay attention to details or ignores what you say. It will only make him feel like you don’t trust him. The fact that he remembers is proof that he cares.
#10. “Let me take you out shopping.”
Unless your man has been living in the jungle all his life and the only piece of clothing that he has is a loincloth, never use this passive-aggressive line on him. You’re insulting his fashion sense and, more than that, his choices. If you want to buy him something nice, figure out how to plan a shopping date without boasting your superior fashion sense.
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