There is never a good excuse to start an affair with a married person, but it happens nevertheless. Many women with cheating husbands still feel a raw pain about this subject but, even if you’ve never thought about it, “the other woman” is also part of your community. She is someone’s daughter, sister, mother, wife, aunt or neighbor. She is human and she has her own motives.
#1. She feels guilty
Unless she is a genuine sociopath, a mistress will feel guilty about being in a relationship with a married man. She will feel guilty when her lover chooses to spend time with her over the weekend because she knowns there is a family waiting for that man at home. She will feel guilty when hearing other people debate the theme of cheating spouses. She will definitely feel guilty while watching a movie involving adultery. Guilt is an emotion that accompanies the mistress throughout the whole affair and even after it.
You should not forget though that many mistresses do not even know that they are, in fact, “the other woman”, because men will go to incredible lengths to keep them in the dark and lie to them about their home situation.
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#2. Becoming a mistress was never the plan
Undoubtedly, every adult is accountable for their own choices and actions. But, sometimes, external circumstances and poor decisions can also rig the game against the mistress.
Getting wrapped up in an affair with a married man can potentially cause a woman to lose her credibility, career, friends, family or, in some extreme cases, even her life, so you can imagine that no woman makes it her goal to do this. Many women get into that position by having a “fling” with a man they never intended to keep dating on a regular basis. Sometimes, they know the man is married and sometimes they don’t, but they persist in the relationship anyway, out of love or infatuation.
#3. She gets jealous
If a mistress knows that her lover is married, she will get jealous every time he walks out the door. She knows that she is not the one he is returning to, she knows full well that she is not the one he is sharing his life with, and that makes her really jealous.
Unless the mistress herself has a family of her own, her life tends to be pretty lonely, his absence making her think of what he is doing at home, with his family. She has time to think of the fact that she doesn’t actually know the level of intimacy he has with his wife, even if he tells her stories about the wife.
#4. She fell in love with the wrong person
Love and lust are blind. Women in love tend to ignore the many red flags telling them that they are with the wrong person, until it is too late. Even then, they might still choose to stay in the relationship because they are in denial, afraid or in love.
Falling for the wrong person happens to everybody. It happens to single people, it happens to married people. There is no exception. The important thing is what the person realizing that they are in the wrong relationship does about it.
#5. She may believe there is a future
Many times, a woman who falls for a man will believe almost everything he tells her. Cheating husbands usually tell their mistresses that they want to get out of their miserable marriages, but whether they actually intend to do it or not, that is a completely different matter.
Often, mistresses convince themselves that there is still hope for their lover to leave his wife and be just with them. Usually, this is not the case, especially if the lover has children at home.
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