Have you ever felt like you just can't talk to your boyfriend about your real feelings and fears? That happens to everyone and you don't need to feel bad about it.
You should know that open communication is a very important part of any relationship. You cannot wait until your boyfriend learns how to read your mind to understand you. If your relationship is healthy, you shouldn't be afraid to tell your partner that something is troubling you.
In this article, we would like to show you the recommendations of licensed marriage and family therapist, Anita Chlipala. Here she shows how to start this dangerous, uncomfortable conversation to prevent fights and misunderstandings. Are you interested? Scroll down to read this article right now.
How to start a difficult conversation without fear that you will upset your partner
If you need to tell him the bad news, it is better to start with positive things. For example, if you want him to spend less time with friends and more time with family, you should start a conversation by saying, “I feel so good when I’m around you. I wish you would spend more time with me and our little family”.
Remember that you are allowed to get more direct about your concerns, as this is the only way to build happy and strong relationship.
What to do if your partner doesn’t want listen to you
Few people like listening to negative commentaries, as they don't want to feel hurt. This is something like a defense mechanism. Chlipala recommends starting this difficult conversation twice or even more times.
Give your partner time to think and let him know that you are ready to work on the problem. However, if your partner avoids you most of the time, it is a sign that he is not interested in maintaining a good relationship with you.
What to do if your boyfriend confirms your concerns
If you tell your boyfriend that you are afraid he won't be able to marry you someday and he agrees, you might be ready to end the relationship. But take things slow and try to find out why he thinks that way. It can be really important.
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