A stable and happy long-term relationship is a rare occurrence nowadays. Whether it’s our inability to compromise, our fear of commitment or the impossible expectations we set up for ourselves, we find ways to erode our relationships and suffer heartbreak. It’s no wonder that the chances of a marriage ending up in divorce are higher now than ever before.
So, here are 10 of the things we usually mess up.
#1. Expecting your partner to change
Unless it’s some form of addiction that you’re trying to get him to quit, taking steps to change your partner is never a good idea. It shows that you don’t really love him as he is, but secretly wish he were someone else. If it makes you feel any better, you’re both going to change over the years, whether you like it or not.
#2. Trying to win every argument
Couples fight. That is a given. But listening to your ego instead of finding a solution to end the argument will worsen the problem and weaken your relationship.
#3. Allowing a 3rd wheel in your relationship
It’s called a “couple” for a reason. You and your partner are the only people who can and should solve their relationship problems. Allowing a friend or a family member to make decisions for you will only push you further apart.
#4. Neglecting your partner’s needs
Taking care of the other’s physical or emotional needs is at the heart of any relationship. Failure to do so will result in your partner looking for happiness somewhere else.
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#5. Holding grudges
If you’re going to hold on to every argument you have with your partner, you might as well call it quits now. Relationships can’t last based on resentment.
#6. Disrespecting your differences
Most successful relationships thrive on the differences in personalities and attitudes that the partners bring to the table. So, don’t try to stifle each other’s voices. If you learn to embrace the differences, there’s no obstacle you can’t surpass in life.
#7. Not admitting when you’re wrong
You can’t be right all the time. And, even if you are, nobody likes a know-it-all, not even your partner. Admit that you’re wrong sometimes, say that you’re sorry and your relationship will flourish.
#8. Lack of communication
You need to speak to each other if you’re ever going to make a long-term relationship work. Quality communication is key to any successful and meaningful connection.
#9. Differences in opinion
Decisions that will impact your life together need to be taken in unison. Having children, dedicating more time to your career, buying a house or moving to a different part of the world are decisions that shouldn’t be rushed into. Discuss the pros and cons, but don’t bully your partner into doing as you please. Be patient and respect his decision.
#10. Not taking time for yourselves
The daily grind is going to put a lot of pressure on your life as a couple. You will be tired, stressed, disillusioned or angry but, through all that negative emotion, take some time to enjoy being together with your partner. That is the only way in which your relationship can grow and blossom.
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