No matter how healthy or strong your relationship is, the issue of conflict is inevitable. There are many reasons that may lead to conflict and even closest to each other people tend to fight. It is only natural, and there is no way of escaping it. Though, what matters is the way you respond and try to resolve the conflict that arises. The thing is that if it is improperly attended to it can lead to serious damage in your relationship.
We have taken all those issues into consideration and decided that it would be nice to at least familiarize you with available ways out. Here is the list of 10 conflict resolutions you should better use if you wish to keep your relation safer and stronger.
#1 Calm down
Think about all those time when you told your partner things you wish you could take back. It happens so that in the heat of the moment we are not fully in control of what we may say and sometimes what comes out of our mouth is not what we actually think. That is why it best to step away for a few moments and to calm down. Specialists suggest stretching as a possible way out.
Often it happens so that conflict arises just because we do not have a suitable subject to burst out with our anger. That means that you may be angry with someone else at the core, but when the fight happens or starts you just project all those issues on the person closest to you. That is why it is best to view the situation from a neutral point and then come to the proper assumption.
#3 Non-verbal communication
Not only words matter but also the gestures and expressions you use. That is why you should also pay attention to the non-verbal side of the argument so that your words correspond with gestures.
#4 Do not worsen it
Very often when we get into a conflict, it may seem that all means are good enough to win it. But when it is a fight with close to your person criticizing, insulting, stonewalling and defending yourself are least appropriate, any of these attitudes can only worsen everything.
Even if you do not agree with your opponent’s point of view, you have to show at least that you understand it. Being hostile is not going to take you anywhere while empathy can help you greatly while trying to resolve the conflict.
It is highly important to admit where you were wrong or what was your fault. It does not mean that you are weak it only proves that you are ready to take responsibility for what has been done by you.
#7 Direct communication
It is true that we live during the age of technology, and there are many ways of having a conflict over phone, email, social network, etc. but the best way to resolve it is to have a direct eye-to-eye discussion so that both points of views are shared, and a suitable conclusion is suggested. Do not try to deviate from the conflict as it can only worsen the state of affair. Be as open as you possibly can.
It is easy to get carried away while trying to stand your ground. But the fact that you think you are right makes it true. It is always best to see the other’s point of view and who knows maybe you are not that right as you thought you were. No matter the consequences you will show your partner that you are able to reflect and see things clearly in every situation.
#9 Things you control
Whether you like it or not but there are things that you clearly can’t control. That is why it important to figure out what is under your sphere of influence and what is not. The things you can’t control you better let go.
It is easy to hold a grudge against someone, but that is never a great option because with every other conflict the negativity will build up. You are together for a reason, and you should better remind yourself of that every time you are faced with a conflict situation. What is more, no matter the reason it is best to forgive and forget a resolved conflict, there is surely no reason to go back to what is already past.
Keep these simple pieces of advice in mind if you wish to preserve the relationship you have strong and healthy for as long as it takes.
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