Romantic relationships are the most valuable element of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. Healthy relationships can make you feel alive, and unhealthy relationships can make you suffer, really suffer and drown in misery.
However, it is not easy to maintain healthy relationships. They require nurturing, care, compromises and commitments. Unfortunately, due to all of the present-day madness of politics, the economy, the weather, busy work, long-distance relationships, texting and so on, it can place a heavy burden on any relationship.
Every couple can face misunderstandings, which can escalate into constant fights that destroys your relationship and result in screaming and anger.
However, it is possible to use some methods that can help improve your relationships and prevent quarrels. In this article, we would like to show you eight tips that can help you avoid unnecessary fights with your partner. Are you interested? Scroll down to read it right now.
#1. Stop blaming and screaming
When you blame your partner, you encourage his defensive behavior. It cannot help you find a solution, it only makes things more complicated.
When quarreling about an issue, it becomes difficult to control emotions. You may start screaming and blaming your partner for all his past mistakes. So stop it. You should know that verbal abuse can result in low-self esteem and mistrust. There is no room for blaming and screaming in healthy relationships.
#2. Don’t try to humiliate each other
Watch your mouth and don't insult your partner. When you treat his this way, you humiliate him and offense his dignity. If you want to have healthy, caring relationship, you should respect your partner and build up his self-confidence and self-esteem. That is the only way to save relationships.
#3. Don’t use force and don't get caught by abusive relationships
Physical violence may ruin everything you have built. You should remember that threatening or using force is unacceptable. So if you don't feel secure around your partner, you should seek professional help. No one deserves toxic relationships.
#4. Don't threaten divorce
Threatening divorce or leaving the relationship when you don't really mean it can undermine the safety in your relationship. It can destroy trust and call into question your commitment. Maybe it can work once, but this manipulative behavior can trigger more issues in the future.
#5. Be yourself and don’t be afraid to show your real feelings
In the middle of a fight, you may interpret the feelings of your partner in a wrong manner. Don't make your own assumptions, as they can be false. Be an adult, keep calm and show how you feel about the situation.
Don't try to tell your partner how he should feel about a particular situation, as it may result in defensive behavior. Let him show his real emotions too and try to solve your problems together.
#6. Forget about past mistakes
When you and your partner have a fight, it can be so easy to blame him for all his past failures, but that is wrong approach. You should learn to control your emotions and focus on present problem. You don't need to make things more complicated, you need to find the best solution to resolve the present problem.
#7. Learn to listen carefully
If you want to understand another person, you should learn how to listen him. When you communicate, you should both have an opportunity to explain your point of view. Don't interrupt your partner and let him say everything he wants. By becoming an active listener in your relationship, you can help your partner feel validated while increasing the probability that you, too, will be heard.
#8. Take a short break to think about the problem
When we have a fight, it can be so difficult to control our emotions. So if you feel that you cannot accept the way things really are, you should give each other some time to cool down. Sometimes people just need time to relax, reduce stress and think. After a while you both will be ready to get back to the issue and find a compromise.
All these tips can help you control your emotions and find good methods to prevent childish behavior, humiliation and bullying. Taking the time put is a good way to see the whole picture instead of annoying details.
So if you find yourself screaming and arguing with your partner, you should stop it immediately and use these tips. Believe us, it can help you strengthen your relationship and build deeper connection.
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