Dating a master manipulator can take a real toll on your life, by affecting your relationships with other people. Manipulators are unpredictable liars, with serious entitlement and control issues. They are going to make your life miserable if you allow them to.
#1. You never know where you stand or what to expect
Like any relationship, yours will have highs, lows and middles, only they’re all going to happen on his terms. He had a bad day at work? You’ll never hear the end of it. A good day? He’ll shower you with love. Every moment you spend together is directly influenced by his mood.
#2. He is a well-spoken liar
He is very convincing when he talks - about anything. He knows exactly what to say and when to say it because he also knows how to push your buttons. If you’re pulling away, he will get you back by telling you how much he loves you. But, he usually doesn’t mean it.
#3. You’re putting in all the effort
His idea of a relationship is to be taken care of by his partner. That includes stuff like making plans to hang out, doing chores and, in some cases, even working. His selfishness will consume you if you’re the giver in the relationship.
#4. Your life revolves around him
Yes, you’re in love with him, and his moods are likely to affect how your day goes. You’ll be waiting by the phone, hoping to hear from him, and you’ll postpone your plans on the off-chance that he’ll leave work early and meet up with you.
#5. Your friends are annoyed
They don’t understand why you’re still with the guy, since all you do is complain about him all the time. They don’t like him one bit and you’re starting to get on their nerves too.
#6. He is unwilling to compromise
It’s always his way or the highway. He refuses to give in even with things as simple as going to the movies. If he doesn’t feel like doing something, it’s not happening.
#7. He is emotionally abusive
He has frequent mood swings and takes you on an emotional rollercoaster. One day he says that he loves you, the next he criticizes every part of you. You live in fear that he’s going to break up with you, and that is precisely what he wants.
#8. He is completely in charge
If he needs anything, you’re the one to help him out. Cooking, cleaning, working, going out, it’s all on his terms and you might not even realize it. After all, you’re too in love with him to notice.
#9. Turning things around to suit his disposition
When you’re complaining about having a bad day, he starts talking about the effect your behavior is having on him. Wait. When did you start talking about him?
#10. He never changes – until you leave him, that is
When you’ve had enough and decide to call it quits, he goes into full boyfriend mode. He calls you all the time and tells you how much he’s changed and how much he loves you. The question is, do you still believe anything he says?
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